To the Tired Working Mom...
To the tired working mom,
Have you ever felt like the start of your workday feels more like the end?
Do you ever wish someone would show you a spreadsheet of your accomplishments at home like they do at work?
Have you ever thought of asking for a raise at work simply because of the 'overtime' you're putting in overnight with your newborn?
Do you look at co-workers without kids and secretly wish you could trade places...even if just for a nap?
I have a message for you: you are not alone.
I am not going to sit here and tell you your job as a mom is important. You know that.
I am not going to sit here and tell you this phase will be over before you know it. You know that too.
What you might not know is that in the exact moment you're wondering how you will ever get everything done at home and at work, someone is looking at you wondering how you do get it all done.
Hear me when I say this: you are harder on yourself then any boss could ever be on you.
You most likely went to work with hardly any sleep after a night of nursing and cleaning up things that your worst high school science experiment could never produce and yet here you are - You're killing it!
Feeling guilty about leaving your child for eight hours a day while the rest of your friends are at playgroup? Don't worry, there are many ways your child can benefit from having a working mom.
After all, you of anyone should know that time is precious, so don't waste your time mentally beating yourself up.
When you're at work, be at work.
When you're at home, be at home.
The moral of the story: be present wherever you are.
After all, where do you think your kids will learn multi-tasking if not from you?
So go ahead, put on the concealer, refill the coffee and take a stretch break. It might not be the perfect life, but it's your life, so make the most of every minute.
And yes, this too shall pass.
How do I know? I've been there and I'm still there...and I've learned lamenting doesn't help as much as living fully.
So give today the best you have and your kids will benefit from whatever that looks like.
A slightly older, slightly wiser working mom
Sami Cone is the best-selling author of "Raising Uncommon Kids", is known as the "Frugal Mom" on Nashville's top-rated talk show "Talk of the Town” and educates over a million listeners every day on her nationally syndicated “Family Money Minute". She is proud to call Nashville home with her husband, Rick, and their two ‘tweenage' children.
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