Miscarriage, Grief, and Mom Guilt
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And its reward? Absolutely nothing beneficial or good.
Grab this timeless wisdom: A shattered heart cannot heal in an environment of judgement, criticism, blame, and guilt.
Study after study shows that self-criticism and guilt is consistently associated with less motivation and decreased self-control. It is also one of the single biggest predictors of depression.
That’s why it’s important to slow down and listen to your heart. What is it saying? What triggers your guilt? Become aware.
You can only address and adjust what you can acknowledge.
Here’s the challenge…. Guilt and shame are loud hostile bullies.
They lie to you. They scoff accusations:
You’re a failure.
If you were more (fill in the blank) this never would have happened.
You got what was coming to you.
There you go again. You ruined everything.
I don’t believe for one second that you intentionally want to be violent to your own soul. You are created for love, not fear and hostility.
So, what can you do when that mom guilt shows up again?
Here’s a solution that brings powerful results.
Give yourself grace. Right here. Right now.
Grace creates the optimal conditions for mending a broken heart.
Grace lovingly lifts and carries.
It doesn’t push, coerce, or command you to try harder.
It’s you being gentle and kind with you.
It’s you lightening your load.
It’s you silencing your inner critic.
It’s you giving yourself permission to listen to Love: It’s OK. Breathe. Rest. Live in the grace of the day. Everything is going to be alright. I’m here with you.
The heart of God answers the devastations of life with one word: Grace.
You can, too.
How will you live in grace, right here, right now?