It is OK to Turn Off Your Baby Monitor
I will never forget the moment I found myself on my knees before the Lord after realizing how little control I had over my two month old's life.
I had been obsessing over how I could make sure he kept on breathing and was incredibly worried that he would just stop one night. I slept with the monitor by my head and would periodically go in and check on him.
I don't think I slept a solid four plus hours straight through until our second son was about six months old...and it was ONLY because we decided to stop using the baby monitor at night.
Both my sons were sleeping through the night by the time they were two months of age (read more on how to sleep train your baby here). So why was I not sleeping?
I heard my babies crying in the night all the time and would come to their aid as fast as I could, only to discover that my babies were actually sleeping soundly in their cribs. The cries I was hearing were in my head. This is commonly referred to "phantom baby cries." (I found out later I wasn't the only mom who experienced this phenomenon).
So when I stumbled across this article the other day, I just had to share it! Man—I wish I had read this a long time ago; I would have really appreciated sleeping through the night right along with my baby. The author's opening line would have had me hook, line and sinker:
I have one piece of advice that may have the biggest impact on improving your own sleep, and your baby’s sleep. TURN OFF YOUR BABY MONITOR!
It only took two years of being a mother to realize that I could depend on my God-given mother's instincts. After all, He did give us mother's super-sonic hearing.
After my husband and I finally turned off the baby monitor, I realized that I too, like the gal in this article, could hear my baby's cry from anywhere in the house. When they really need me, they let me know.
At some point I had to lean into trusting that my baby's very breath was in God's hands. Fretting, worrying and trying to control even their breathing produced only a poor quality life.
This whole parenting gig is truly about learning to simply steward the lives of these little one's we've been entrusted with and learning to be okay with not controlling everything.
What about you, are you pro or anti baby monitor?
Lena likes to define herself by the Seven C’s: Christ, Chris, Children, Comrades, Coffee, Cheese, & Cardio. Due to her love of coffee and cheese, she must also have a relationship with increasing her heart rate. The Lord has given her a wonderful husband in Chris and they have two young boys.