"First Mom": Husband or Child (Who Would You Choose?)

What are you willing to sacrifice?

Let's stop the name-calling and start supporting our fellow moms, regardless of whether or not we identify or agree with them.

Should we start calling Melania Trump "First Mom" instead of First Lady?

Regardless of which side of the aisle you found yourself on during the last election, there's one fact that can't be argued: the President-Elect has a ten year old son whose life is about to drastically change.

And it appears Mrs. Trump puts her role as a mom above her priority as a wife.

Thanks to a recent NY Post article, we learned Melania and Barron Trump will sacrifice living in the White House and will continue to live in the family’s Trump Tower penthouse so that Barron can continue attending his Upper West Side private school.

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“Melania is extremely close to Barron, and they have become closer during the campaign,” said a source close to Trump’s transition team. “The campaign has been difficult for Barron, and she is really hoping to keep disruption to a minimum.”

I'm sure Trump's wife and the youngest of his five children won't be strangers to the White House - and there's no telling what will happen after this school year ends - but for now they are voting to say NO to Washington D.C.

Let's not forget - we're talking about the White House here! How many families have EVER had the chance to live in this iconic and historic residence...much less refuse it? Not many.

But this isn't just about Mrs. Trump preferring NYC over DC; she's clearly taking a stance as a mom above her role as a wife.

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I applaud her commitment to her child, but for me the choice doesn't simply rest in geography, school or residence. Family is family, and as a matriarch, I'm tasked with keeping my family together at all costs.

Did anyone ask me what I would do? No.
Will I likely ever be put in the position where I would have to make the same choice? Unlikely.

Which is why I won't pass judgment in this situation.

Perhaps the Trump family is used to spending lengths of time apart after a long and arduous campaign, but I daresay nothing could prepare any of the Trump clan for what their lives will become starting in January.

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Melania Trump will still have duties as First Lady, but for now it seems as if she'd prefer the title of "First Mom"...and more power to her.

Sometimes we feel powerless over what's happening in our nation and our government. And while I cannot always control what's going on in the world, what I can control is how I respond to the election in my own home and the decisions I make on behalf of my own children.

I was challenged by all three tenets from the article "Post Election Thoughts from a Stay-At-Home Mom", but most of all by the charge to truly model the type of person I long for my child to be.

Ultimately, it doesn't matter whether you identify yourself as a Republican, Democrat or Independent - if you have a child, you are first and foremost a parent.

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So let's stop the name-calling and start supporting our fellow moms, regardless of whether or not we identify or agree with them because there's one thing every mom can agree on: this parenting thing is not for the faint of heart.

Sami Cone

Sami Cone

Best-Selling Author & Speaker

Sami Cone is the best-selling author of "Raising Uncommon Kids", is known as the "Frugal Mom" on Nashville's top-rated talk show "Talk of the Town" and educates over a million listeners every day on her nationally syndicated "Family Money Minute". She is proud to call Nashville home with her husband, Rick, and their two ‘tweenage' children.

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